The official name for Human Design Gate 37 is The Gate of Friendship. But I call it The Boundaries Master because its primary action is healthy communication and maintaining strong boundaries.
About Human Design Gate 37 – Gene Key 37
Archetype Name: The Boundaries Master
In Action: healthy communication and maintaining strong boundaries
Keywords: holding people together, family, equality, and emotional resources
Official Gate Name: Friendship
Human Design Definition: The manifestation macro- and micro-cosmically of the organic nature of communities.
Core Theme: Fear of tradition.
Bodygraph Center: Emotional Solar Plexus center and connects to the Will center via human design gate 40.
Tropical Sign: Pisces
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The Energy Spectrum of Human Design Gate 37
All energy in the Human Design chart exists on a spectrum of potential.
On the “positive” end of the spectrum, Human Design Gate 37 is the energy for having strong family bonds through strong communication and healthy boundaries. Gate 37 believes that all people are worthy of respect and treats everyone as a valuable part of the family, community, or friend circle.
On the “negative” end of the spectrum, Human Design Gate 37 is the energy for sacrificing yourself to make sure that the family stays together or hiding behind it’s emotions . When gate 37 doesn’t take responsibility for its emotions, it often projects its emotions onto others by being cruel or mean on purpose.
If you don’t like the results that the “negative” side of the spectrum is creating in your life, you can raise the frequency of Gate 37 with a number of boundaries, practices, and tools.
(I cover the practices for the gates of your incarnation cross in The Human Design Map.)
My personal contemplation of Human Design Gate 37 (Gene Key 37)
I don’t have gate 37 defined in my chart but I do think it is an energy that I’ve developed a lot of wisdom in. I have a number of significant relationships in my life with people who have the full 37-40 channel so it is an energy that I have been exposed to consistently.
Gate 37 is a tribal energy which means it is focused on what is right for the family, community, or group. I don’t have much tribal energy in my chart at all. I am mostly individual and collective circuitry and I’ve always been someone more focused on individual empowerment and what is happening in the collective.
All that to say, I’ve never really felt like it was my job to make sure a family, community, or group stays together. In fact, most of my adult life has been in estrangement from most of my family.
But, I have developed relationships in my life that truly feel like family to me. And what I have learned, over time, is that the full spectrum of gate 37 is truly magnificent energy.
Yes, it can reach the bottom of the trenches with control and codependency.
But, it also has the capacity for deep empathy, for mutual respect, and for understanding that empowered individuals actually are what make an empowered family or group. It leads to healthy boundaries, communication, and cooperation. It is able to find a win-win in even the most challenging family dynamics.
I am blessed to say that I’ve learned that boundaries and healthy communication are absolutely possible in relationships. And I am able to maintain healthy boundaries most of the time – even when it feels challenging.
There is, of course, some work still to do in this area. Perhaps there always will be.
But I am very grateful for the people in my life who have been role models for healthy relationship dynamics and who have shown me what is possible.
Now it’s your turn to contemplate Gate 37
When you stand in the truth that you can embody the gifts of gate 37 whether it is defined in your chart or not…
What have your experiences taught you about communication with your family or close knit groups?
Do you have a tendency to sacrifice yourself for the needs of your family?
In what ways can you foster deeper communication and better boundaries with your family?
I encourage you to take some time with these questions. Take them out into your world and let their answers reveal themselves to you. Intend for deeper levels of clarity about gate 37.