Let me ask you this:
What is it that you most want? Like, really? What if you take away the opinions of everyone else and only consider what you want?
(Go ahead. Ask yourself.)
Maybe you want more time to create your art and refine your craft. Or maybe you are dreaming of a farm with goats and chickens and a big patch of sunny land for growing organic vegetables. Or maybe you want a thriving business that serves others. Or maybe, today, all you really want is a shower.
Maybe you want all that and then some.
The good news is that you really can create whatever it is that you want for yourself.
But if you don’t know what you want?
What if you feel confused and stuck?
What if you’ve buried your needs so deep under the pile of what everyone else wants and needs that you wouldn’t even know how to recognize it when it was right in front of your eyes?
I’ve been that girl. The idea that I could create whatever I wanted for my life used to scare the ever living shit out of me because I had no idea what that was. I spent so much time focused on what other people told me that I should want, I lost touch with the part of me that always knew.
I remember when I first started my business all those years ago. When it came down to it, all I really knew was that the work I was doing was not fulfilling to my soul and that I really just wanted to help people. And I had no clue what I was doing. So, like a good business owner, I followed all of the advice about how to create an amazing business. I learned this strategy and that strategy. I implemented.
And while all of that led me to a business that many would have deemed “successful,” on the outside, it wasn’t what I really wanted. I was helping people, for sure. But I wasn’t really creating a business that was aligned with my soul’s purpose or one that honored my needs and true desires. I often found myself exhausted and even resentful.
What the hell had gone wrong?!?!?
I had done everything right. Except, that I hadn’t.
I had done everything right by everyone else’s standards and put my own needs and desires on hold. It was a pattern that I seemed to be repeating over and over again. I knew that it was time to create my life and my business based on what I actually wanted. I had to get clear on what I wanted, and most importantly, how I wanted it to feel.
And while things aren’t perfect and are always in a state of evolution, the secret to being able to do that is to trust your feelings.
Many of the people I’ve worked with have used their feelings as proof for how much they suck or as evidence for what a horrible awful person they are for feeling certain ways.
But, the truth is that feelings are just signals. They aren’t a moral judgment.
And when you allow them to guide the way, you end up with what you really want.
See, when you feel good, you are in alignment with your needs, your desires, your deepest longing, your soul. When you feel like crap, you aren’t.
That is it. I just unlocked the code of the Universe.
Now, your job is to just notice.
Notice what feels good. Notice what doesn’t.
Notice what feels like it is working. Notice what isn’t.
Notice what feels like love. Notice what feels like fear.
Notice what lights you up from the inside out. Notice what dims your light faster than water on a fire.
You don’t even need to DO anything with what you notice. Just notice what you notice. When it is time to do something with what you notice, you’ll feel it.
For now, just notice.
Your answers are in there. You just have to be willing to see them.