One of the first things projectors often hear is that they will benefit from sleeping alone. It is one of the recommendations I make in the Human Design Map and I talk to a lot of projectors about this.
There is often a bit of resistance that comes when this recommendation is made. Whether it’s practical reasons like space and having small children or it’s more about the rules and values we tend to hold around sleeping in the bed with partners, the resistance is definitely worth exploring.
I myself started sleeping alone, apart from my husband, many years ago. And I often credit this with why I was able to assimilate and integrate my Human Design into my life with little resistance.
Because I had been sleeping alone for so long, I was already learning most of what my design was showing me about myself.
And here is why…
When you sleep alone, you will “wake up as yourself” every day.
It gives your body large amounts of time to release sacral energy and any other conditioned energy you absorbed during the previous day.
This means that you will naturally have more discernment and awareness about what energy belongs to you and what doesn’t, which energy is correct for you to guide and lead, and which energy you can use for your own benefit.
Sleeping alone helps us to know which invitations are correct and which ones aren’t.
And it helps us to be more in tune with our authority and inner wisdom.
If you are constantly exposed to any conditioning energy, you won’t have that level of discernment, because you won’t have the contrast.
Think of it as the weather in L.A.
Let’s say that you live in L.A. where the weather is pretty consistently beautiful. You are exposed to such beautiful weather on a daily basis, it is just your normal way of experiencing the world.
On the rare occasion that it snows, it is going to be like a big event that you experience on a much deeper level than if you lived in Alaska during the winter. The contrast is sharp and clear.
We want the contrast of our encounters with others to be sharp and clear. We don’t want other people’s energy to be our daily norm.
Sleeping alone gives us that without much effort.
And, it isn’t that all types wouldn’t benefit from sleeping alone. All types would because of the deconditioning element.
But it is especially helpful and healing for Projectors because we don’t use energy the way sacral beings do.
We USE the contrast to help us guide others. We need that contrast to fulfill our energetic role. It is one of our most powerful tools.
We take energy in, run it through our Projector spidey senses, make it big enough that the other person can see it clearly, and then we guide its use.
Whereas sacral beings are actually the ones DOING. They are the ones taking our guidance and implementing it (a key sign that you are truly recognized and invited) in the world.
They use their energy to DO. We sample their energy to guide their doing. We are here to guide them.
If we have their energy mixed up in ours, we can’t effectively guide.
For a sacral being (Generator or Manifesting Generator) their sleep is more like charging a cell phone. The moment it is plugged in (sleeping), it is ADDING energy to be used the next day.
Sacral beings, assuming they are using their energy “correctly” on a daily basis, will wake up fully charged and ready to go do.
If we sleep in the bed with them, their energy is charging ours and we don’t wake up with automatic contrast.
Without that contrast, we can’t fulfill our energy role of guiding and it can keep us trapped in cycles where we believe that our role is doing. This leads to so much projector burnout and issues with worthiness and value.
But, as I mentioned in the beginning, there are absolutely practical reasons where sleeping alone isn’t possible. Maybe you don’t have the space, you have small children, or maybe you just aren’t ready to do the deconditioning work to make the leap.
Whatever the reasons, the next best thing is going to be as much “Pure Aura Time” as possible. When you sleep alone, you are getting a lot of pure aura time and its benefits without having to make as much time during your day.
The Pure Aura time will assist your body in releasing any conditioned energy from those around you. And at the end of the day, that is going to be one of the biggest keys to living the highest potential of your design.
And, when you are ready to do the deconditioning work related to the social conditioning around sleeping alone, the most important things to explore are your emotions and shadows. Tools for that are in the deconditioning toolbox, which is included when you purchase your Human Design Map.
In the meantime, I’d encourage you to contemplate the following questions:
Do you sleep alone? Why or why not?
Do you feel pressure to sleep in the same bed with your children or partner?
Are you able to discern what energy is yours and what isn’t? Do you easily recognize correct invitations? If not, are you open to experimenting with sleeping alone?