One of the most important aspects of growing, both emotionally and spiritually, is having a safe space to explore, process, and dream. To help you do that, I want to offer you my best tips on creating sacred space at home.
For me, it has been an interesting journey to discover what it even means to have a sacred space, let alone how to create one on purpose.
For most of my life, I had trouble feeling safe. My nervous system was overactive. I often felt overwhelmed by other people’s emotions and I had terrible boundaries.
Over time, by learning the skills of WonderWork, not only have I built a solid foundation of self-worth, but I feel like I can handle anything life throws my way. Even in the midst of chaos and crisis.
A big part of that has been listening to and trusting my emotions.
So, to me, when I think about creating sacred space, the most important thing is that the sacred space allows me to just BE.
When that criteria is met, the space becomes sacred, no matter what the circumstances are.
So, I am delighted to be able to share these ideas with you.
14 Ideas For Creating Sacred Space At Home
This isn’t a definitive list and you don’t need everything on it but it will definitely give you some direction.
Pick and choose the pieces that feel right to you and. Keep experimenting until the space you’ve created feels safe and sacred.
And remember that as we grow and evolve, your sacred space can grow and evolve with you and keep in mind that all of these things aren’t necessary. The only ones that are critical are #1 and #13.
#1 – Boundaries
This is crucial.
If you are worried about being disturbed or that your privacy won’t be honored, that is something you’ll need to address by setting boundaries.
Even if it means you lock yourself in the bathroom for three minutes, in order to truly heal, you need that space.
This is one of the things I love about doing the Embodied Wholeness healing program with my clients. Each session includes a 20 minute resting period where my clients gets to rest so deeply that they often fall asleep.
I’ve joked that even if the energy work part is completely hocus pocus (it isn’t), just having someone hold space for you to take a 20 minute nap is amazing. I’ve even had clients receiving this healing work from their minivan!
So, if you need to carve out your space in your minivan, instead of your house, rock it out. As long as it feels safe and private, that is all that matters.
#2 – Open The Space
Start by lighting a candle or stating an intention for what you want out of your time in your sacred space. I put water into a bowl on my altar and, if my husband is home, I close the door and put a do not disturb sign on it (see the boundaries point above).
Whatever you do, get clear on what you want from the time and express it, whether symbolically or with words.
#3 – Turn Off The Noise
I don’t know about you but it is easy to get overwhelmed by the constant influx of information in our current world.
From the demands of daily life, the news, constant social media notifications, and overflowing inboxes, it can be really hard to hear your own voice. At a certain point, it may even begin to feel like you can’t tell what is yours and what isn’t.
In your sacred space, turn off your phone, put away your iPad, and put your laptop into sleep mode so that you can start to hear your inner wisdom.
Back in the day, I started driving without the radio or CD’s (I’m old, lol) and it started opening up some space to just hear myself again.
#4 – Clear The Space
You can do this in a number of ways, like burning palo santo, using reiki or crystals (I really love rose quartz and smoky quartz), sound like clapping, loud music or singing bowls, or even a simple prayer or statement will do.
This clearing will remove any “leftover” energy in the space and will support your ability to be present with whatever you are doing.
#5 – Your Talisman
A talisman is anything that is symbolic to you, that helps you remember Who You Really are, and reminds you of your intentions.
When I do “soul charts” for clients, I mail them (in the real mail) so that they can have that visual reminder of their healing. I’ve also been known to send my clients pieces of handmade jewelry and or “Energy Portraits” that I create while working with them.
It can also be things that you find, like feathers, rocks, fortunes from fortune cookies, tarot or oracle cards (this is my favorite tarot deck), or even a handwritten note. As long as it holds a meaningful energy to you, it can be a talisman.
You can create a little altar or just sit them around. Whatever feels good to you is perfect.
# 6 – Something That Tastes Delicious
I personally prefer a nice cup of cold brew (I make it in this French Press)or bulletproof coffee in the morning and a lighter tea in the afternoon (like this one). I’ve also been known to bring in some good chocolate, from time to time.
Find something tasty and have it nearby in case you want it.
#7 – Something That Smells Delightful
I personally like to diffuse essential oils, choosing different ones depending on the vibe I am going for. I have three diffusers in my house (this one) and have essentials oils going most of the time, even outside of sacred space.
#8 – Something That Feels Cozy
Like I said before, I am highly sensitive and am very peculiar about how clothing, furniture, and blankets feel (I love this kind!). You don’t want to be feeling itchy or cold when you are doing your shadow work.
So, bring in things that feel good to your skin, are comfortable, and make you feel cozy. This will go a long way in supporting you.
#9 – Something That Looks Beautiful
I am a bit of a beauty junkie. I’m pretty sure that I was an interior designer in a past life.
All that aside, beauty is important because it is actually a form of rest.
When your eyes perceive beauty, you automatically feel peaceful and calm. Think about your favorite place in nature and how peaceful it is. It’s the beauty!
So, bring in things that are beautiful to you, it will help you relax and feel safe.
#10 – Something That Sounds Enchanting
For me, the vibe I am going for really matters here. I love classical when I am brainstorming or plotting out my next move in business or life. I love this song on repeat when I am journaling and digging deep, there is just something about it that is very healing to me. And, in my world, you can never go wrong with anything by Trevor Hall.
Whatever feels groovy to you is awesome. (Are you starting to notice a trend here?)
#11- Create Some Negative Ions
Negative ions purify the air of all sorts of stuff like allergens. They are why it feels amazing to be at the beach or so peaceful after a thunderstorm.
But, you don’t need to be at the beach or to wait for the next storm to experience them.
They even say that negative ions have tremendous health benefits (all those peaceful feels must be good for the body!) so load up your sacred space with them!
#12 – Good Journals and Writing Pens (or Pencils)
Uh, who can have a sacred space without nice paper and pens? Not me, that is for sure.
Even if the intention of going into your sacred space isn’t related to journaling, it is always nice to have something to capture any insights that come up.
#13 – Permission To Feel
Along with good boundaries, this one is essential.
Your feelings are your gateways into Who You Really Are.
If you avoid your feelings, you also avoid understanding yourself and your opportunities to expand and evolve.
So, give yourself permission to feel. Even if for only the time you are in your sacred space.
#14 – Close The Space
Just like opening the space with intention, it is important to close out the space as well.
You can say some words of gratitude or make a little note in your journal about the TLDR of your time. Anything that helps you assimilate what you are taking away from your time and enables you to transition back into “regular” life with grace is perfect.
Well, there you have it. These are my favorite tools for creating sacred space. I do hope that you have found them helpful and that you’ll be creating your sacred space in no time.