Christie Inge

Master Energy Healer & Intuitive Guide

The “myth” of being a better person.

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Culturally speaking, we are taught that our value as humans is derived from our ability to look good naked, make more money, gather more likes. To be more productive, make a more significant impact, go big or go home. To give more, to sacrifice more, to martyr more.

We are taught that we should be better.

My message of RADICAL SELF ACCEPTANCE completely flies in the face of that conditioning.

I’m reminding you that you are not broken and that you do not need to be fixed. I’m reminding you that you are whole and complete, just as you are. I’m reminding you that YOU are pure magic.

So, one of the things you might be wondering is if you embrace yourself as you are, if you stop judging yourself, then you will gain weight, go broke, and alienate all your friends, family, and followers.

And, holy hell, do I have a lot to say about that.

First of all, did you know that the idea of “being a better person” is just something humans made up? I’d even go so far as to say that “being better” is the unprocessed fears of our ancestors, and those fears stem from the illusion of separateness from Divine Wholeness.

In other words, there are no “better” humans. There are humans.

Every one of us are a fascinating combination of shadow and light.

We are selfish and giving.
We are lazy and creative.
We are mean as fuck and sweet as pie.

And in our avoidance of these truths, we forget how to harness and channel our energy in ways that are truly aligned for us. And in that forgetting, we check out of our bodies and pursue validation of our “goodness” through external validation.

We let fear drive us.

And don’t get me wrong.

Fear is not bad. Or wrong. And you don’t need to exile it from your life. (Jokes on you because you can’t do that anyway!)

Fear is a normal human emotion. It is part of the 50/50 spectrum, and it holds a vast amount of wisdom when you’re willing to be with it. It tunes you into your intuition and invites you to access the risks of any given situation.

Fear is asking you to look at “both sides” of a situation and then make conscious choices about which risks are worth it and which ones aren’t.

In this case, you might consider these questions…

Are you willing to continue living the rest of your life striving for external ideas about what it means to be good?


Are you willing to be ruled by other people’s approval for the rest of your life?


Do you like playing make-believe on the outside while the inside of you is slowly withering away and dying?


What is worth the risk? And what isn’t?

If you decide you’re not willing to risk a life of playing small, then it’s time to look yourself right in the eyes and learn how to harness and channel ALL that you ALREADY ARE.

That is when miracles happen.

You will polish the mirror. You will let go of the grit and the grime clouding your view. You will see yourself clearly and come to know yourself as the Divine.

And the irony is that in the revelation of who the fuck you really are – energetically and spiritually – you will automatically EXPAND. You don’t need to force it. It literally can only be that way.

You will take up space. You will burn down the structures that are just too small for your energy. You will live your chosen path.

Maybe that will lead you to a more aligned relationship with food. Or a more abundant relationship with money. Or a collective of raving fans on social media.

And maybe it won’t.

But you will give zero fucks either way because you will be free from the illusion that any of that shit really matters.

What really matters is you living in integrity with yourself and not settling for less than who you came here to BE.

I'm Christie Inge.

I’m a foul-mouthed Fairy Godmother for creative rebels who are committed to making a difference in the world by being themselves