We live in a culture that encourages us to be different than we really are. Multiple times per day, we are told that we need to be thinner, richer, and smarter. It might even be the people we care about the most delivering those messages. In the face of all that, is can be hard to see the benefit of self acceptance, especially the real, tangible, and practical ways it can make your life better.
I understand. I’ve been there, too.
So, today, I want to share with you 8 ways that self acceptance will benefit your life.
8 Practical Self Acceptance Benefits
Self Acceptance Benefit # 1: You will have more compassion and acceptance for others.
When you practice self acceptance, you will, for sure, start to feel more compassion for yourself. You will also start to forgive yourself for past “mistakes” and stop judging yourself so harshly.
That, in and of itself, is amazing. But, the side benefit of that is having that spill over onto others. The more you accept yourself, the more you will accept others.
Self Acceptance Benefit # 2: You will uncover your inherent gifts and talents.
By reclaiming the parts of yourself that you’ve hidden from others (and yourself), you will also reclaim your biggest gifts and talents. In fact, the parts of yourself that you are most afraid to share are probably also the parts that will serve the world in the most potent ways. Your shadow self (the parts you hide away) is a gateway into your magic.
Marianne Williamson said it perfectly:
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
Self Acceptance Benefit # 3: Your self-talk will become more supportive.
Have you ever woken up in the middle of the night worried about what you said or did? Or spent hours beating yourself up after a hard conversation with a loved one? One of the benefits of self acceptance is that your self-talk will become more positive over time.
Like I talk about in the myths about accepting yourself post, your inner mean girl won’t pack up and move out. But, you will find ways of working with her (instead of against her) and you’ll know how to bring yourself back when it gets really messy.
Self Acceptance Benefit # 4: You will probably save money.
One of the most practical benefits of self acceptance is that you will probably save money. Since I have started practicing self-acceptance, I have saved hundreds per year in books alone. I also don’t sign up for a bunch of courses that waste away on my hard drive.
As I mentioned before, we live in a culture that constantly tells us that we aren’t good enough, and as a result of buying into those stories, we end up on a constant hamster wheel of trying to “fix” ourselves.
But, when you accept yourself, there is nothing to fix.
Instead, you can focus on working towards goals and intentions that are in service to your needs and personal core values.
Self Acceptance Benefit # 5: You will take better care of yourself.
Many of the women I’ve worked with struggle with understanding and meet their needs. This leads to self-care that is inconsistent, unsatisfying, and, ultimately, low self-worth. By accepting your needs as valid, you can start to advocate for and meet them more effectively.
It might be as simple as flossing your teeth and going to the dentist regularly. Or, maybe it’s setting boundaries with a friend. Or, perhaps, learning how to communicate with your partner about your needs for touch and affirmation in a self-responsible, non-violent way.
No matter what you need to do to take better care of yourself, self-acceptance is the first step in being able to be more consistent and effective.
Self Acceptance Benefit # 6: You will feel more confident in manifesting your intentions.
For me, one of the most painful things to realize is that you’ve been trying to manifest intentions that are based on other people’s needs and values. It feeds into the cycle of feeling like you are broken and not good enough. But, when you accept yourself, you can use it as a launching pad for creating what is actually in alignment for YOU. You will start to feel more confident as you move forward and you will trust that you are moving in the “right” direction.
Self Acceptance Benefit # 7: You will have more energy.
For me personally, one of the biggest benefits of self acceptance has been getting my energy back. I used to spend so much time focused on what other thought I should be that I had little left over for anything else.
By practicing self acceptance, I have reclaimed a lot of that energy and have been able to pour into things that are in alignment with my own needs and values.
Self Acceptance Benefit # 8: You have cultivate healthier relationships.
One of the greatest misconceptions of our time is the difference between fitting in and belonging. Belonging is one of our universal needs. We are wired to crave the love and acceptance of our tribes; it’s a survival instinct. However, that need for belonging gets distorted when our tribe expects us to be different than we are. In order to protect ourself, we change who we are in order to fit in. And what most people don’t realize is that fitting in is a shitty substitute for belonging.
And it can be hard for us to see, when we are deep in the midst of it, that when we twist ourselves into someone we are not, “they” aren’t actually loving who we are, they are loving the pretend version. In order to be loved and accepted for who we truly are, we first have to show up as we truly are.
When you practice self acceptance, not only will you feel more confident in yourself and start living a more fulfilling life, but you will also be able to cultivate more authentic and loving relationships with others.
So, when all’s said and done, self-acceptance has many practical benefits. In fact, these eight only scratch the surface. When you practice self acceptance, it impacts every single aspect of your life in a healthy and positive way.