The Wisdom of Joy, Anger, Sadness, Fear, and Shame

Written by Christie Inge, 5/2 Splenic Projector, born in the LAX of the Clarion 2 (57/51. 62/61) and creator of the Human Design Map

NOTE: My Human Design content is my personal interpretation of mechanics and is always written through my heretical + alchemical lens. It often does not align with traditional HD perspectives. And this post may contain affiliate links. If you purchase after clicking one of my affiliate links, I may make a commission. 

You know how much I love Human Design. And, I honestly have a million and one reasons why. 

And one of them is completely selfish in my role as energy healer and coach. It makes my job WAY easier. 

And anything that makes my job easier is an A+. Because, well, #projectorlife. 

Human Design makes my job easier as a healer and coach because it’s like a hotline to blocked emotions. 

In almost all cases, looking at your Human Design is highly likely to bring up some kind of feelings. And it’s a great starting point for healing any emotions that are preventing you from playing your best game of life

When those feelings come up, there are a couple steps that need to happen. 

First, it is important to understand what our feelings are, how they are different from thoughts, and why we have them what our feelings are, how they are different from thoughts, and why we have them

Then, you have to actually feel them — in your body. I have a blog post that details that out called, you guessed it, How to feel your feelings

Then, by feeling your feelings and doing those three exercises on a regular basis, you’ll start to notice patterns of what those feelings are telling you. 

But, in the beginning, especially when you are just getting familiar with your feelings, the wisdom can be a bit harder to decipher. 

So, if you are reading your Human Design (or your Human Design Map) and are trying to figure out “why” you feel what you do, here is the general wisdom of our primary emotions and what they may be showing you about your Human Design:

The Wisdom of Joy 

Other names for the primary emotion of Joy are happiness, affirmation, validation, recognition, gratitude, etc.

You are likely to feel a form of joy if your Human Design affirms “positive” things about you or things you’ve known all along. And for certain folx, especially Projectors, Reflectors, and 5th lines, the revelation of your Human Design could even feel like you’re being seen for the very first time in your life.

(Trust me, I get it! I’m a 5th line Projector!)

Joy is one of our primary emotions as Human Beings and it’s an invitation to revel in the beauty of life. It holds the wisdom of gratitude, appreciation, and celebration.

You feel joy when you are actively RECEIVING the gifts of life in the present moment.

When any flavor of JOY comes up for you, notice where it is in your body, how your body wants to move with it, and what you can do to anchor it in through action.

What are you appreciating? What are you loving? What Inner Truth are you reveling in? 

The Wisdom of Anger

Other names for the primary emotion of anger are irritation, bitterness, frustration, resentment, defensiveness, offended, Etc.

You are likely to feel a form of Anger when your Human Design reveals parts of your shadow or when you feel like you’ve been “called out” for parts of yourself that you thought you were hiding.

It’s OK to feel this way. Confronting our shadows is big emotional work.

It’s important to know that anger is always about our boundaries, our values, and protecting ourselves from threats (real or perceived).

In this case, your Human Design likely feels like it threatens your “good” person persona and that you have to “fight for” your reputation or your “good” standing with others, with the world at large, and with that thing that some call God.

So, if any flavor of anger comes up, I encourage you to notice how it feels in your body, what your body wants to do with the energy, and how you can explore that energy in a safe container.

Get curious about what the threat seems to be. What false identities of “goodness” are you trying to hold on to? What part of you feels threatened?

And, probably more importantly, what would you be able to do with all that energy you’ve been using to keep these parts of yourself hidden?

The Wisdom of Sadness

Other names for the primary emotion of sadness are regret, remorse, grief, mourning, loss, etc.

You are likely to feel some form of sadness when your Human Design reveals parts of yourself that you’ve lost through people pleasing and hustling for your worthiness. You may need to grieve “what could have been” or the time you’ve spent living out the lie of people pleasing. 

It may even be from the dissolution of your identity as a “good” person or from waking up from the illusion that you can’t actually hide from yourself anymore. 

Sadness is the emotions that “washes away” the old and makes space for the new. It is one of the most healing states when we allow the water of sadness to flow. It is the gift of letting go. 

So, if any flavor of sadness shows up in response to your Human Design, I encourage you to notice how it feels in your body, how it may want to move, and what it is showing you about letting go. 

Ask yourself what it’s time to let go of? And is there a way to ritualize the letting go to help your mind and body “wrap around it?” 

The Wisdom of Fear

Other names for the primary emotion of fear are resistance, confusion, pushback, terror, etc.

You are likely to experience a form of fear when your Human Design reveals a change that you are afraid to make or believe that you cannot make.

Now, that doesn’t mean that fear is an invitation to “feel the fear and do it anyway.” Nope, that is some new age bullshit that keeps you spinning.

Fear is not a green light. It isn’t telling you to plow ahead.

Fear is not a red light. It isn’t telling you to come to a full stop.

Fear is a caution light. It is telling you to slow down, pay attention, take the risks of all choices into account, and make a conscious choice for moving forward.

When it comes to your Human Design, this will mean looking at the parts of your design that scare you and exploring what changes you are afraid to make.

Notice where the fear is in your body, how that energy wants to move, and what risks are in front of you.

And, don’t forget to consider the risk of “all sides.” 

What are the risks if you make the change? What are the risks if you don’t? What are the risks if you stay in indecision?

The Wisdom of Shame

Other names for shame are humiliation, embarrassment, guilt, disgust, etc. 

You are likely to feel some flavor of shame when your Human Design reveals parts of yourself that you believe are wrong, bad, unworthy, or unlovable.

Often, these will be shadows that you’ve been fighting to hide and resisting for so long that your body can no longer sustain that energy and has decided to lay down and play dead.

There are two types of shame that can come up.

The first is called Tribal Shame and the second is called Righteous Shame.

Tribal shame comes when you are trying to follow the rules of your family, friends, community, and the collective. It leads to people pleasing, ignoring the wisdom of your inner voice, and doing what the world has told you is “right.”

Righteous shame comes when you are living out of integrity with your own inner Truth. It leads to hiding, giving up on your intentions and dreams, and wallowing in stories of unworthiness.

In either case, shame is an invitation to restore your integrity — to get back into alignment with what is right FOR YOU.

When it arises, notice where it is in your body and what actions arise from it. 

What stories about right/wrong, good/bad, or evil/holy surround the shame?

And, most importantly, what if you believed, right now, that you are the Divine Incarnate and there was nothing you could think, feel, or do that could possibly make you unworthy of Love?

Time to explore the wisdom of your emotions…

Take some time to get clear on the strongest emotion that has been coming up for you as you’ve learned about your Human Design. 

Make a bit more space to process it in your body and then explore it using the guidance and questions I offered you above and begin thinking about what you need to do in order to integrate the wisdom of your emotions. 

When you do that, you will truly begin to understand the value of feeling your feelings and listen to their wisdom. 

I promise. 

There is so much more where that came from:

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